Want to feel Grateful? Don’t Take Anything Personally!
Thanksgiving is coming up, the one day of the year that’s designated for being grateful. Even if you don’t believe in conjuring up gratitude just because you’re supposed to, you’re determined to be loving as you can be, especially if you have friends and family coming over.
The good news is, you already know each family member’s Human Design Chart, so you’re pretty clear on how they may behave at a holiday gathering. The bad new is, most of them think you’re weird and refuse to follow their Human Design strategy. So…. they will most likely ‘misbehave.’ So what are you to do?
I invite you to try this simple principle adapted from The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz: Don’t take anything personally!
Here’s how it works:
What anyone says or does isn’t about you, it’s about them. Even if they specifically blame you for something, they are still reacting to their story about you. Lovingly allow them to have their story, and their feelings about it.
Here are some examples of how you can apply this principle.
Let’s say your sister, in her predictable way, is glued to your side while you prepare the turkey, offering up Martha Stewart’s latest recipe. You don’t remind her that last year you followed her suggestion and cooked the bird in a paper bag at very low heat. The bag caught fire, the bird took three extra hours to cook, and people were grumpy and starving by the time time you sat down to eat. This time you remember to not take her behavior personally. You take a breath, thank her for her suggestions, invite her to prepare the potatoes, and follow your tried and true turkey recipe.
Your son has just announced he’s now vegan and gluten free. He lectures you on the moral injustice of killing animals for food and complains that you haven’t stocked the fridge with any food he can eat. You remember that he is entitled to his story and stay open and unruffled. You encourage him to stand for his beliefs, promise to make a gluten free salad, and invite him to create a gluten free dish for dessert.
You get the picture.
So now imagine you are sitting at the dining room table, across from your partner, flanked on either side by friends and family members, plates piled high with gloriously prepared food – or whatever your scenario is. Even though there is a sparse pile of undressed greens nestled up to a baked potato on your son’s plate, an odd colored pumpkin pie on the sideboard, and your sister is making faces at her slice of turkey, you feel fantastic! You are guilt free and genuinely grateful.
Adding the principle ‘Don’t take anything personally,’ to your understanding of Human Design, helps you to not get caught up in others’ ups and downs, or wear yourself out trying to make everyone else happy! You feel grateful not just for the awesome people in your blessed life, but even more because you’ve managed to stay grounded in yourself no matter what is going on around you.
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Linda Landon, PCC, Mentor, Facilitator, Author, Deep Coaching Practitioner, Human Design Specialist, Wellness Sexuality Practice, igniteyourjoy.us
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