Pleasure: What arises for you when you read this word? A memory of your lover stroking your cheek, savoring a delicious meal, swimming with dolphins ten years ago? Perhaps the word brings up some sadness or recognition that pleasure is missing in your life, and has been for a long time. Consider this: What if pleasure is available [...]
I moved to Weaverville, NC, partly because I believed this was a safe place to live - no fires, hurricanes, or earthquakes. Whenever a storm blew through, the sacred Blue Ridge mountains encircled and protected us. On September 26, that all changed. It began with the rains…… a deluge so intense that water bounced upwards off the pavement and pummeled [...]
Last year I turned 70! Though my energy has never been better, I must admit that crossing this threshold has made me pause. What threshold have you recently crossed? Have you or your partner entered a new decade? Perhaps one of you has encountered an ‘age-related’ health issue, and it’s affecting your sexual intimacy. Maybe you’ve finally left your high-paying [...]
Let’s face it, the last few years have been challenging. For starters, there’s Covid. The pandemic has radically changed every aspect of our lives - including how we work and interact with others. The shift from in-person to virtual relating has impacted us in ways we are only beginning to comprehend. Some of us feel like we’re waking up out [...]
It’s spring! Yet while nature is unabashedly unmasking herself in her full glory, we are still masked, cautious, and reeling from the impact of what’s happened in our world. Imagine you’re having a conversation with me about how your life has changed since this time last year. You talk about the forces that have impacted you and your loved ones [...]
Just as I was about to start writing, I cut my finger. Dang! Another unexpected opportunity to do something differently. So I recorded my thoughts instead and found a new way to write my blog. In this extraordinary time, every moment offers us a choice: We can put our attention on what we cannot control, and experience fear, frustration, isolation, [...]
My friend wrote and published a book in only nine weeks, and I confess - I am jealous! Let me clarify, in my true self - what I call my essential nature - I’m delighted for her and super inspired by her process. However, that niggling, insecure and self-critical aspect of me, better known as my ego, is fuming. It [...]
Recently I was rear-ended. Fortunately, my trusty Subaru absorbed most of the impact, so the physical damage to my body wasn’t too bad. Two weeks later a series of earthquakes shook southern CA. What I rely on as solid ground rolled as if I was on a ship at sea. These events have forced me to confront once again how [...]
Have you – or your spouse - lost interest in sex? When one of you initiates physical contact, is the other too busy or not in the mood? Are you afraid that the delicious feeling of heat and turn on that drew you together has faded away, never to return? Do you miss the intimacy that sex used to bring?
Today I lose another tooth. I can no longer keep track of how many have been extracted over the past thirty years - easily more than ten! The only ones left in my mouth that haven’t been replaced with an implant, or at least had their roots filled and crowned, are my bottom front five teeth. Even those, hanging in [...]